Hi Jamessterrysmith,
Thanks for your post and welcome to the forums. It's really great having you on board with us in the Community.
I'm sorry to hear that you not getting bill notifications.
The password we ask for when you call is the data protection one that the account holder would have chosen. If you can't remember this, and you are the account holder then you can reset this by answering other questions instead.
When signing in to My Virgin Media, check the E-billing to ensure it is active. This will then mean you get a notification to say when your bill is ready.
Hope this helps. Let me know if you need any further help.
Thanks,